We look forward to getting married because we are excited to have someone in our life that will keep us steadfast on the deen and bring us closer to Allaah azza wajal. Someone that will increase us in piety and learn alongside us. But the responsibilities after marriage are endless and time runs short in the day. The time to learn about your deen, the time to improve yourself, the time to develop piety is before you’re married - when your responsibilities are strictly to yourself and your development. I’m not saying you won’t develop further after marriage, because you most certainly will. But how can you expect to marry a person that will increase you in piety when such a person probably expects a spouse that has already reached a level of piety from which they feel they can learn from? It’s a balance. You must develop into the person you wish your spouse to be and then anything that remains will be fulfilled by them, and traits they lack will be filled by you, inshaa Allaah. But don’t wait for marriage to increase your piety. Don’t hope that anyone else is responsible for your development but you.
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